If You Don’t Ask, You Won’t Get It

Ever wondered why you don’t have what you want in life? It’s most likely because you haven’t asked for it.

The life you secretly crave won’t just find you; to achieve the numerous successes you desire in both your personal and professional spheres, you need to be proactive and vocal about your needs and desires.

Overcoming the Fear of Rejection

At first, asking for what I wanted didn’t come naturally to me.

In my previous corporate job, I hesitated to ask for time off, to be placed on projects that matched my interests and strengths, or to be considered for promotions. My silence—whether due to not wanting to seem spoiled or entitled, a sense of modesty, or an unconscious belief that I didn’t deserve what I truly wanted—meant I didn’t get what I wanted.

Fortunately, I grew bolder over time. I realized that the worst thing that could happen was to be told, “No,” which doesn’t sound so bad, does it? 

And, yes, I did indeed receive the occasional “no.” But I quickly realized that the fear of rejection, typically the biggest hurdle to asking for what we want, wasn’t as bad as I had made it seem in my mind beforehand. 

It also made me realize that each “rejection” was a natural part of the process that led to personal growth and opened new paths.

Embracing the Power of Asking

Yes, asking for what you want can feel daunting, but it's a skill that can be developed with practice. Start small, and gradually build your confidence. 

Remember, the act of asking is an assertion of your worth and your right to pursue happiness and success. By embracing this mindset, you open doors to opportunities and experiences that might have otherwise remained closed.

Another thing I learned is that most people are pretty helpful and want you to have what you want. Often, their unawareness of your needs is what prevents them from helping you, and it's your responsibility to make these needs known. 

This principle certainly applies to personal relationships as well. For instance, rather than expecting my husband to anticipate my needs, I’ve learned to communicate clearly and ask directly.

Conclusion: The Life You Want Won't Just Come to You by Chance

Whether it's a promotion at work, a special night out, or the respect you deserve, you need to ask for it. 

Taking initiative and communicating your needs clearly is the key to unlocking the life you desire.

So I encourage you to do the following: 

Think about what you want, don't let the fear hold you back, and go ahead and ask for it. You might be surprised at the answer you receive.